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How to Deal with Bullies at School


From abusive behavior on the school playground to disrespecting classmates on social media, bullying is a widespread problem especially in schools that can affect child’s mental and emotional health.

A study published in the Journal of School Health found that 19 percent of U.S. elementary students are bullied. And each day, more than 160,000 kids stay home from school because they fear being bullied, according to a survey by the National Education Association, a public-education advocacy group.

What doesn’t work in stopping bullying:

  • Fighting back

  • Bullying the bully

  • Ignoring it and walking away

  • Just playing with a different group of students

  • Remaining silent about the problem.

But here are some other strategies to that can help improve the situation:

  • Avoid the bully and use the buddy system.

How to Deal with Bullies at School

Use a different bathroom if a bully is nearby and don't go to your locker when there is nobody around. Make sure you have someone with you so that you're not alone with the bully. Buddy up with a friend on the bus, in the hallways, or at recess — wherever the bully is. Offer to do the same for a friend. 

  • Hold the anger.

How to Deal with Bullies at School

It's natural to get upset by the bully, but that's what bullies thrive on. It makes them feel more powerful. Practice not reacting by crying or looking red or upset. It takes a lot of practice, but it's a useful skill for keeping off of a bully's radar. Sometimes kids find it useful to practice "cool down" strategies such as counting to 10, writing down their angry words, taking deep breaths, or walking away. Sometimes the best thing to do is to wear a "poker face" until they are clear of any danger (smiling or laughing may provoke the bully).

  • Act brave, walk away, and ignore the bully

How to Deal with Bullies at School

Recognize that you have a right not to be bullied. Firmly and clearly tell the bully to stop and say “No”, then walk away. Practice ways to ignore the hurtful remarks, like acting uninterested or texting someone on your cellphone. By ignoring the bully, you're showing that you don't care. Eventually, the bully will probably get bored with trying to bother you.

  • Tell an adult

How to Deal with Bullies at School

Do not be afraid to speak up and talk openly to you teachers, principals, parents, and lunchroom personnel at school. They can all help stop bullying.

  • Report bullying incidents

How to Deal with Bullies at School

Talk to someone you trust, such as a guidance counselor, teacher, sibling, or friend. They may offer some helpful suggestions, and even if they can't fix the situation, it may help you feel a little less alone.

  • Make your school bully-free zone.

How to Deal with Bullies at School

As a student, initiate a club that promotes tolerance and respect. Work with teachers and administrators to create school-wide activities. Hold assemblies and make them both informative and fun (go multimedia!) You could also create campaigns that encourage other students to report bullying. Most often, both victims and witnesses are too intimidated or ashamed to come forward. It is also important to strengthen surveillance especially in areas that have less supervision by adults, like school buses, cafeterias, restrooms, hallways, and locker rooms.  

Schools need to enhance the monitoring of these spaces by additional adults or using enhanced security techniques including closed circuit cameras. On the other hand, schools can also establish anonymous reporting tools like suggestion boxes or hotlines where students can send them text messages or leave voicemails.

You need to stand up for yourself if you get bullied. If you're a student at the school, and you see somebody being bullied, remove them from the situation. 

Even if you get hurt even more because of it, you'll be respected, and other kids will help you take your next stand. All bullies are cowards, the second you hit them with a punch back, they're done. Violence is not a good answer, but may be the last option. This should only be a LAST resort!

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